I claimed this one three-lettered word for the new year. I knew God was giving to me because it’s what he’s been speaking into my life – for years, really. I believe change is possible, even when it seems so far away. I want some things deep in my soul to be different – like a better version of what is happening right now.
But I had no idea how JOY would be laid in front of me. Like God was reminding it’s really right here. I walk pass it and ignore its sounds far too often. But I don’t want to keep doing that this year.
I want to choose joy – over and over. It’s not like I can choose it once and be done. I chose it before the year started. I got side tracked with kids’ sickness and life. And I chose it again. More life and expectations. So I choose it again. Today. And I’ll choose it again tomorrow too.
My husband likes to sing songs as soon as he steps out of bed. He is more relaxed and naturally joy-filled than I am. Our son is much like him. They aggravate me sometimes, but they also point me to joy. It’s hard to miss joy when you’re around them.
Joy is showing up in the songs I’m listening to and the books I’m reading. I recently finished “The Fringe Hours: Making Time for You” by Jessica Turner and on page 50 her words seemed to bridge my struggles and my goals in one paragraph.
“Life is not perfect. You are not perfect. But you are a glorious creation, and your life is meant to be lived with joy. Some days you aren’t going to get your makeup on, you will burn the bookies for the school bake sale, and you will spill wine on the rug. In our mess, God makes us strong. In your glorious imperfection, you can still shine beautifully bright. Embrace that truth. Stop trying to be everything for everyone and start investing in who and what really matters.”
{Jessica Turner in “The Fringe Hours”}
I believe the joy I’m choosing really matters. It’s a process so beyond myself that I know it’s going to stretch me and grow me in ways only God can orchestrate.
I also started reading “In this House We Will Giggle: Making Virtues, Love, and Laughter a Daily Part of Your Family Life,” thanks to Kayse Pratt’s encouragement. Greg and I are going to read this one together. And, of course, the first chapter is on joy. In it, author Courtney DeFeo quotes Kay Warren: “Joy is the settled assurance that God is in control of all the details of my life, the quiet confidence that ultimately everything is going to be all right, and the determined choice to praise God in all things.”
Um, what an amazing definition.
And I certainly don’t have joy figured out if that’s my standard, but it’s a good place to start.
So I’m keeping a list of moments that bring me joy. Some of them are little everyday conversations that come with being a mom. Others are surprises throughout the day that I want to recognize and remember. I’m keeping a note going on my iPhone and posting pictures on Instagram with #choosingJOY. {I’d love for you to follow along and even post your own moments of #choosingJOY.} Counting joys one by one because I know as I look back I will be remembered that God is indeed in control and that everything will be okay.
And I want my kids to learn that too.
“I don’t want my children to obey only because they fear consequences or worry that Mom will lose it. I want to know their hearts understand and grasp the joy to be found in doing the right thing. This requires parenting through the daily grind with a long-term mentality.”
{Courtney DeFeo in “In This House We Will Giggle”}
So we played hide-n-seek this week before Daddy came home from work. Honestly, he’s better at starting such games. We turned up some music while we disinfected the house once Ben was recovered from the flu. We read and played when there were still chores to be done.
I still don’t want to sing songs when I first wake up or at the dinner table, but I do sense some freedom and joy that hasn’t always been present in our house. I believe this is the beginning of something more.
In my post last week, I mentioned the playlist I’m making. Like me, it’s a work in progress, but this is what I have now. Some songs are about joy, others bring me joy, and some capture the message my heart needs to experience joy.
“Laugh Out Loud” by Jason Gray :: “… I was alive but I wasn’t living, a prisoner of my fear and shame. But when you find you’ve been forgiven laughter will rise like a holy kind of praise. So I throw my head back and offer up my thanks! Ha ha, don’t it make you wanna laugh out loud? Oooh oooh, and shout, “Hallelujah!” Oh yeah, if you got joy go and let it on out …”
“Joy” by Rend Collective :: “We’re choosing celebration, breaking into freedom. … You’re the song of our hearts. … You’re the joy joy joy lighting my soul, the joy joy joy making me whole though I’m broken, I am running into Your arms of love. The pain will not define us; joy will reignite us …”
“Joy to the World” by Shaun Groves :: This is beautiful combination of “Joy to the World” and “All Creatures.”
“Only Hope I’ve Got” by Ellie Holcomb :: “I don’t wanna tell some arrogant story or let myself believe I’m You. I don’t wanna be a thief who’s stealing your glory. Will you help remind me of what is true? The only hope I’ve got; it’s you …”
“More Heart, Less Attack” by NEEDTOBREATHE :: “Be the light in the crack. Be the one that’s been there on a camel’s back. Slow to anger quick to laugh. Be more heart and less attack …”
“Joy to the World (You Are My Joy)” by Rend Collective :: Another fun version of the traditional song.
“Greater” by MercyMe :: “Cause I hear a voice and He calls me redeemed when others say I’ll never be enough. And greater is the One living inside of me than he who is living in the world … Bring your doubts. Bring your fears. Bring your hurt. Bring your tears. There’ll be no condemnation here. You are holy, righteous and redeemed.”
“Your Love Never Fails” by Newsboys :: “You stay the same through the ages. Your love never changes. There may be pain in the night, but joy comes in the morning. And when the oceans rage, I don’t have to be afraid because I know that You love me. Your love never fails …”
“Open Up the Heavens” by Meredith Andrews :: “Open up the heavens. We want to see you. Open up the floodgates, a mighty river, flowing from your heart, filling every part of our praise. … You’re the reason we’re here; you’re the reason we’re singing.”
“Outsiders” by NEEDTOBREATHE :: “Cause if you’re not laughing who is laughing now? I’ve been wondering if we start sinking could we stand our ground? And through everything we’ve learned we’ve finally come to terms we are the outsiders. … On the outside, you’re free to roam. On the outside, we’ve found a home. On the outside, there’s more to see. On the outside, we choose to be.”
“I Am” by Crowder :: “There’s no space that His love can’t reach. There’s no place that we can’t find peace. There’s no end to amazing grace. Take me in with your arms spread wide. Take me in like an orphan child. Never let go, never leave my side. … Love like this, Oh my God to find! I am overwhelmed what a joy divine!”
“Promise of Summer” by Jackopierce :: “The winter fields begin to recover and finally it’s the promise of summer. Lights are shining round and the guards are coming down …”
“Eyes Wide Open” by Jars of Clay & Third Day :: “Keep our eyes wide open. (Love is kind and love is daring everything we need to keep our eyes.) Draw us in, send us out. Draw us in, send us out. Draw us in, pull us out. Help us to believe.”
“Joy to the World” by Bebo Norman :: Another great version!
“Mighty to Save” by Mac Powell :: Just wait for the African children to join him!
“Hey Mama” by Mat Kearney :: “Singing hey mama, don’t want no drama, just a kiss before I leave …”
“Multiplied” by NEEDTOBREATHE :: “God of mercy sweet love of mine, I have surrendered to Your design. May this offering stretch across the skies and these halleluiahs be multiplied …”
Where do you find joy? {Leave a comment sharing and two people will win a copy of my playlist! I’ll randomly choose the winners next Wednesday.}
I’m also linking up with Holley Gerth’s Coffee for Your Heart and Jennifer Dukes Lee’s #TellHisStory. Be sure to read Jennifer’s post on fighting back with joy. It’s beautiful and true.
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