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Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First.

February 11, 2021 by Kristin 1 Comment

I saw lots of writers post about this brightly colored book: “Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First.: 10 Questions to Take Your Friendships to the Next Level” by Laura Tremaine. I didn’t order it right away because, honestly, I just wasn’t sure if I needed a self-help book on connecting with people more deeply. I’ve been limiting my non-fiction consumption because I really don’t want a lot of bossy voices in my head.

Well, I ended up ordering the Kindle version of this book on the last day preorders were available because I was totally intrigued by two of the bonuses, which, more honesty, I don’t usually care about. I wanted the downloadable journaling prompts (which are taken directly from the book but provided space to process more deeply) and The Secret Tapes, which are podcast episodes where the author talks with friends and family she wrote about in the book.

Goodness, I’m glad I got this book. I read it in two days, journaled about nine of the ten questions as I read the book, plan to journal more, and recommended the book to two my best friends and my counselor. In fact, I shared some of my journals and thoughts with my counselor.

This book is part memoir and part guidebook. Laura Tremaine is a good storyteller, but she’s not just a storyteller. She uses her experiences and vulnerability to empower people to share their stuff. She goes first, asks the hard questions, and ushered me into deeper thinking about my own childhood, friendships throughout different seasons, and decisions that changed the trajectory of my life.

About the book

“Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First.” is the invitation you’ve been waiting for to show up – even maybe you didn’t know it! In spite of the hyper-connected culture we live in today, women still feel shamed for oversharing and being publicly vulnerable. And no matter how many friends we seem to have, many of us are still desperately lonely.

Openness and vulnerability are the foundation for human growth and healthy relationships, and it all starts when we share our stuff, the nitty-gritty daily details about ourselves with others. Laura has led the way in her personal life with her popular blog and podcast and now gives you the tools to build and deepen the conversations happening in your life.

Laura’s stories about her childhood in Oklahoma, her complicated shifts in faith and friendships, and her marriage to a Hollywood movie director will prompt you to identify the beautiful narrative and pivotal milestones of your own life. Each chapter offers intriguing and reflective questions that will reveal unique details and stories you’ve never thought to tell and will guide you into cultivating the authentic connection with others that only comes from sharing yourself.

“Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First.” is a 224-page hardcover book published by Zondervan (Feb. 2, 2021).

About the author

Laura Tremaine grew up in small town Oklahoma and moved to Los Angeles sight unseen when she was twenty-two years old. She worked in film and television production for many years at MTV, VH1, Fox, and Paramount Pictures, before pursuing writing full time.

Laura has been sharing her life online for ten years. She writes about friendship, anxiety, motherhood, and marriage. Her blog posts and podcast episodes resonate with women looking for ways to connect more deeply with others as they transform from one era of life into another. Laura lives in Los Angeles with her husband, Jeff, and their two children.

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Nobody told me to share this book with y’all, I just can’t help it. It’s so good. I paid for the Kindle version of this book with my own money.

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Telling stories is my therapy and I love sharing them with friends on my porch.

The main characters in my stories are my entrepreneur husband, our ninth-grade girl who never forgets, our have-no-fear sixth-grade boy, and our joy-filled kindergarten girl. As we live out our stories, we seek God as the author of them all.

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