Kristin Hill Taylor

Seeking God as the Author of Every Story

  • Home
  • About
  • Books
    • Peace in the Process
    • Bringing Home More Than Groceries
    • Created for Communion
  • Contact

Letting traditions go

December 7, 2016 by Kristin 20 Comments

letting-go-of-traditions-12-7-16

In 2011, we started a tree hunt tradition. We had wild, crazy trees in our living room that reminded me to embrace adventure – especially during the hectic Christmas season. (The perfectly imperfect one from 2013 may have been my favorite tree. You can read about the adventures from 2011, 2012, 2014 & 2015 too.)

I love the colored lights and mismatched ornaments that document our travels and our children’s growth. I love putting gifts with whatever wrapping paper I happen to have under the branches, creating anticipation and joy.

When we moved to the country in June, I immediately saw an evergreen near our pond that I mentally marked as our next Christmas tree.

In November, when I thought about dragging in a large, unshapen tree into our house, where a toddler who is into everything lives, I got stressed out by the thought alone. A few days later, I saw {real} 3-foot table top trees at the grocery store.

And I remembered it’s okay to let go of a tradition.

This wasn’t the year for the tree hunt that would end with a colorful, sparkly temptation for my 14-month-old girl.

This was the year for the small, still lovely tree from the grocery store.

That means we didn’t unpack all our ornaments. We don’t have a mantel here, so our stockings are hung from the bookshelf with care. I didn’t change a wreath (or, um, add a wreath, because, well, there is no wreath of any kind on my front door) or add other holiday decorations.

This was the year for simplicity.

This was the year for a table-top tree on the seat in the bay window of our kitchen.

Maybe it’s not about the tree or decorations for you this year. But maybe all the advent resources don’t help you prepare your heart for Him because they’re all overwhelming. Maybe you need to let go of plans or the amount of money you spend on gifts or how many white elephant exchanges in which you participate.

Even the best traditions can distract us
from truly preparing Him room.

{Tweet that.}

The best part of me letting go of our tree tradition is the big kids still love the small one.

I strung the lights – one strand was all it required – around the tree. Ben and Cate hung ornaments – mostly in the front middle because Rachel’s curious toddler hands can still reach the bottom branches and they wanted to see the ornaments, not wasting one that wouldn’t be in view.

And then they let Rachel place the angel on the top.

They had bantered about who would get the honor, and then agreed to let their baby sister they obviously adore. Sure, it started with a disagreement, but it ended with a memory I will cherish.

I would generally prefer a tree-top star, but that crocheted angel belonged to my Nanny, who passed away 15 years ago. She died a few months before Greg proposed. She would have loved my family dearly. And they would have loved her.

So letting the baby of this family set that angel on top of our small, sweet tree was perfect this year. Maybe next year we’ll resume the tree hunt for a wild tree that encroaches upon our living room. But maybe there are other traditions to be born.

*****

Kristin Hill Taylor - 3 Word Wednesday
 Loading InLinkz ...
  • Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)
  • Click to email a link to a friend (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window)
  • More
  • Click to share on Pocket (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Tumblr (Opens in new window)
  • Click to print (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window)

Filed Under: Three Word Wednesday Tagged With: Christmas, family, traditions

Comments

  1. Michele Morin says

    December 7, 2016 at 7:08 am

    Yes! Traditions are lovely, but they are not the boss of us!
    Our family is on the other end of things — trying to decide which of the old faithful traditions still bring joy to the hearts of teens. Sometimes it’s hard to let go of the old way of doing things because there is so much memory there, but we’re making new traditions that incorporate grown sons and daughters-in-love and a WONDERFUL grandson. He’s coming on Friday to make cookies with me — something his busy teen uncles are too busy for right now!

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      December 7, 2016 at 2:35 pm

      Sounds like you’re making wonderful memories regardless of the season! Thanks for sharing a piece of your story here, Michele!

      Reply
  2. Joanne Viola says

    December 7, 2016 at 7:37 am

    Kristin, this is precious in every sense of the word. Thank you for reminding me that in letting go, we also make room for what is yet to come. Blessings to you and yours! xo

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      December 7, 2016 at 2:34 pm

      Thank you, Joanne. I love your comment so much – thinking about making room for what is yet to come is good for my soul.

      Reply
  3. Jennifer Linck says

    December 7, 2016 at 8:07 am

    I love this! We started a new tradition this year of getting a REAL Christmas tree and I love it! There are fewer ornaments on it and it’s smaller than our artificial one, but it makes me so happy.

    I also love what you said about getting overwhelmed with all the Advent stuff. I’m pretty sure the point of Advent is not for us to feel massive amounts of guilt when we miss our reading multiple days in a row.

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      December 7, 2016 at 2:33 pm

      Those real Christmas trees are among my very favorite memories so far. I’m glad you’re enjoying yours. I’ve loved your Christmas pictures lately. And, yes, Jesus doesn’t want us to feel guilty! Rest easy, my friend! xoxo

      Reply
  4. Lisa Appelo says

    December 7, 2016 at 8:53 am

    Yes, yes and amen. It’s so important as mama’s setting the tone in our homes to know when to make traditions and when to relax them. Good for you, Kristin, for focusing on the most important. This will probably be one of the sweetest memories for you in years to come.

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      December 7, 2016 at 2:32 pm

      Thanks, Lisa! I really appreciate you encouragement. Hope you’re doing well.

      Reply
  5. Katie @ My Joy in Chaos says

    December 7, 2016 at 10:18 am

    Yes! We haven’t done ornaments in several years because of two very curious boys. This year we did handmade foam ornaments because if they get destroyed I DON’T CARE. We have two traditions that we hold on to: staying home on Christmas day and reading the story of His birth before any presents get unwrapped. I’m okay with anything else that does or doesn’t happen.

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      December 7, 2016 at 2:31 pm

      Foam ornaments sound fun, though! Yes, we read the Christmas story and spend Christmas morning at home too, although this year we’ll go to church too so we may do some family stuff on Christmas Eve. Again, there I go, messing with traditions! 🙂 Thanks for being here, Katie!

      Reply
  6. Susan Shipe says

    December 7, 2016 at 10:43 am

    I love what Joanne Viola said above.

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      December 7, 2016 at 2:31 pm

      Me too. 🙂

      Reply
  7. Ginger Harrington says

    December 7, 2016 at 11:16 am

    What a great point that is a great reminder. We don’t have to keep a rigid grip on traditions every year. I love the way you adjusted your tradition to be a blessing to your family. When our youngest was 2, she pulled the Christmas tree over twice (I’m a slow learner). Fortunately she wasn’t hurt, but it certainly scared her. Now that girl is coming home for Christmas. Time flies!

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      December 7, 2016 at 2:30 pm

      Your comment is such a true testimony about how seasons pass quickly, which goes along with how traditions can be paused or change along with who and what is happening in life! So glad for that encouragement today, Ginger!

      Reply
  8. Gayl says

    December 7, 2016 at 2:09 pm

    Kristin, I loved reading this. It’s true that sometimes we need to let some traditions go and make new ones that fit our family better.

    Thanks for sharing your heart and blessings to you!

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      December 7, 2016 at 2:29 pm

      Sometimes I’m stubborn when it comes to change, but God is always faithful to provide in all ways. Thanks for being here, Gayl!

      Reply
  9. Tiffany Parry says

    December 7, 2016 at 3:33 pm

    You already know I love this, and I’m all in for a simple Christmas. We had a tree hunt tradition from the time my son was little – pick a tree at Home Depot and then dinner at In N Out (its a SoCal thing). Then we came home, trimmed, clipped, drug pine needles and tree stands and I strung lights for hours typically ending up in a puddle of tears because of tangles and black holes. A few years ago we went artificial and pre-lit and it’s beautiful, and I don’t have to be ugly over a tree. I’ve been going simpler ever since and I wouldn’t have it any other way! Love you friend – and your heart makes me happy!

    Reply
    • Kristin says

      December 7, 2016 at 3:51 pm

      Your post this week resonated so deeply with me. Thanks for encouraging me on this journey. And I’m sure your tree, regardless of whether it’s real or artifical, is beautiful because it’s yours. xoxo

      Reply

Trackbacks

  1. What Do I Crave the Most? - Words, Photos and ArtWords, Photos and Art says:
    December 7, 2016 at 1:59 pm

    […] I’m linking up with: #FiveMinuteFriday where the word prompt is crave. #Faith’nFriends, #GiveMeGrace, #MomentsofHope, #LMMLinkup, #TellHIsStory, #TeaAndWord, #ThreeWordWednesday […]

    Reply
  2. Things from December says:
    December 28, 2016 at 6:01 am

    […] been less stressful, thanks to simpler gifts that were almost entirely ordered online, the freedom to lay down and pick up traditions and activities as they work in our lives, and a whole week of nearly no plans to start Christmas […]

    Reply

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Let’s Connect

  • Bloglovin
  • Email
  • Facebook
  • Instagram
  • RSS
  • Twitter

About Me

Telling stories is my therapy and I love sharing them with friends on my porch.

The main characters in my stories are my entrepreneur husband, our high school girl who never forgets, our middle school boy who has no fear, and our joy-filled first-grade girl. As we live out our stories, we seek God as the author of them all.

Learn more about my story here.

Subscribe for Updates

Recent Posts

  • How to take the trip
  • Eight is great!
  • A few of my favorite things
  • He Should Have Told The Bees
  • Created for Communion

Join the Conversation

Join the Conversation

On Instagram

🎶 Everybody got a small town anthem / Everybody 🎶 Everybody got a small town anthem / Everybody got a story to tell / Everybody got a hallelujah … 🎶 @thomasrhett

Here’s a story for you: When Cate turned 15 in May 2022, I bought her tickets to see Thomas Rhett. But then the concert date conflicted with a church retreat, so I went to two friends to the concert instead of my taking my daughter. 

Earlier this year, I saw TR was playing Nashville at the end of his Home Team 2023 Tour. So I bought Cate tickets again. 

She was sick Thursday night and into Friday, but her fever broke and she mustered the energy to cash in her on 15th birthday present now that she’s 16 1/3 years old. 

We had a great time and I’m thankful for the experience with my oldest girl, who is great company … until she slept the entire two hours home. 

Thomas Rhett is so fun and such a great performer! I especially loved his covers of seven songs from seven decades (1950s to 2010s). 

#thomasrhett #hometeamtour23 #countrymusic #countryconcert #nashville #musiccity #momlife #girlmom #firstborn #weekending #FallBreak
This book was hard to hear, but also a good story This book was hard to hear, but also a good story based on real life. 

"Cilka's Journey" follows "The Tattooist of Auschwitz" when a character from that story is moved to a Siberian work camp. I've never thought about the women in those camps and how their bodies were affected by the abuse, what would happen if they did get pregnant, and how nurses were certainly needed. Of course, it's so bittersweet to know despite the hard circumstances friendships still bloomed. 

I borrowed this audiobook from Libby, but the Kindle version is also included for free with a Kindle Unlimited subscription. 

THE BOOK: amzn.to/3tbp91Z
KINDLE UNLIMITED: amzn.to/3Pz8Un4

#KHTreads #bookstagram #booklover #audiobooks #librarybooks #kindleunlimited #historicalfiction
Y'all have been so awesome celebrating my new book Y'all have been so awesome celebrating my new book! If you've had a chance to read it, I'd really appreciate you leaving a review. For authors, Amazon is the best place, but you can copy and paste the same review on Goodreads and Barnes & Noble too: 

📚 Amazon: bit.ly/createdforcommunion
📚 Barnes & Noble: mavely.app.link/e/RHD4MooDGCb
📚 Goodreads: www.goodreads.com/book/show/197602230-created-for-communion

Of course, if you haven't gotten your copy yet, you can buy "Created for Communion" at Amazon or Barnes & Noble (from those links above!) and from the trunk of my minivan! 

🌸 Plus there are FREE resources, including a sample chapter, on my website: kristinhilltaylor.com/created-for-communion

#linkinbio #authorlife #KHTreads #bookstagram #bookrelease #author #book #booklaunch #amazonbook #goodreads #marketrefinedpublishing #MRPbook #bookshelf #nonfiction #selfhelpfbooks #christianbooks #christianauthors #CreatedforCommunion #GodsDesign #BiblicalFriendship #KristinHillTaylor #communion #friendship #faithlife #community #bettertogether #friends #holyfriendships #bookreviews #freebies
To live in communion with one another, means to sh To live in communion with one another, means to share meals, space, advice, and prayers. It also means sharing hope, disappointment, dreams, and forgiveness. 

We explore what this looks like in “Created for Communion,” along with other biblical foundations for friendships and community.

🌸 FREE RESOURCES & SAMPLE CHAPTER: 
kristinhilltaylor.com/created-for-communion

🌸 GET THE BOOK:
bit.ly/createdforcommunion

#linkinbio #KHTreads #bookstagram #bookrelease #author #book #booklaunch #amazonbook #goodreads #marketrefinedpublishing #MRPbook #bookshelf #nonfiction #selfhelpfbooks #christianbooks #christianauthors #CreatedforCommunion #GodsDesign #BiblicalFriendship #KristinHillTaylor #communion #friendship #faithlife #community #bettertogether #friends #holyfriendships
So many of my Facebook friends shared lovely pictu So many of my Facebook friends shared lovely pictures of their daughters yesterday for the completely made-up National Daughters Day. Regardless, today I'm all in my feelings about my daughters. 

They're 16 and 8 right now. Both of their classes have been studying ancient Egypt and had a joint feast today. Sweet, huh? 

BUT THEN TIMEHOP GOT ME! Apparently, NINE years ago today, when Cate was a second-grader, her class had an Egyptian feast. I think about a particular picture of Cate and her friend Kilee from that day AND THEN IT CAME UP IN MY TIMEHOP TODAY. Facebook also told me that same day nine years ago, Monica and I became Facebook friends. We probably were at the Egyptian feast and decided we'd be friends because our girls were friends. Y'all, God has been so good to me through my friendship with Monica. Our families click in a special way with our three sets of same-aged kids, most of whom have been adopted. 

Anyway, my daughters. They're lovely, funny, and smart. I love that Cate helped Rachel with her Egyptian eye makeup this morning and made her a Nutella and banana sandwich. I love that they got to have a party today at school together. I love that even though they're eight years apart, they're sisters. 

I hope you enjoy these pictures as much as I do. 💛

#momlife #timehop #documentlife #bettertogether #sisters #siblinglove #nationaldaughtersday #daughters #reallife #schoollife #adoption #adoptionislove #PeaceInTheProcess #CreatedForCommunion #choosingJOY @ncca.lions
I’m pretty much always thinking about my next tr I’m pretty much always thinking about my next trip! Be it a weekend getaway or a family vacation, I’ve always got ideas of where I want to go next. The rest of my family always has suggestions too. Yes, take the (next) trip!

In the blog post HOW TO TAKE THE TRIP, I share lots of links and suggestions on where to go, who can help you, and what to take with you. 

✨ https://kristinhilltaylor.com/2023/09/how-to-take-the-trip.html

Where do you want to go? What do you always take with you?

#linkinbio #ontheblog #roadtrip #vacation #documentlife #takethetrip #bloggerlife #adventurers #choosingJOY #traveltips
I was thankful for some rest time on the couch on I was thankful for some rest time on the couch on Saturday afternoon — and a chance to finish this suspense book. 

“Between Two Strangers” by @katewhite_author had such an intriguing plot that pulled me right in. I was close to figuring out how it was all intertwined, but I didn’t quite get there through all the twists. Good, quick read!

#KHTreads #bookstagram #booklover #librarybooks #weekending #latergram #suspensebooks #goodreads
Recently, in random snapshots. This is a full life Recently, in random snapshots. This is a full life, but it’s a good life. 💛

#momlife #siblinglove #bettertogether #reallife #latergram #documentlife #soccermom #boymom #girlmom
When you subscribe to emails from my porch, you ge When you subscribe to emails from my porch, you get some free goodies! Plus, it's a fun way to chat about life, books, and faith. 

I just updated the free gifts to include a lovely PDF that has links to 27 (!!!) how-to posts about life, home, and parenthood. I'm going to give away more goodies when I meet some subscriber goals, so, if you haven't already, please join me on my virtual porch. 

🏠 bit.ly/PorchEmails

#linkinbio #PorchStories #bloggerlife #email #bettertogether #onlinefriends #authorlife #freebies #favoritethings
Load More... Follow on Instagram

Favorites

Categories

Archives

Copyright © 2023 Kristin Hill Taylor | Site by MRM